Last year I left a role in corporate communications to tackle something daunting. Africa fit the bill. I flew to East Africa with an open heart to climb the highest free-standing mountain in the world, Kilimanjaro.
However, the moments of bravery in this story do not lie in in my day-to-day adventures on Africa's highest peak, but in the many months before I even stepped foot in Tanzania.
The scariest moment - the one where I felt most alive - happened in my kitchen in Toronto when I booked my flights. Until then, the dream of traveling to East Africa was simply that: A dream. But in that moment, it became a reality. And that felt incredibly powerful. Everyday we are faced with the choice of how we should spend our days. Moments of bravery don’t always happen during a big game, race or event. They happen in the quiet of our everyday lives when we choose do something extraordinary for ourselves.
The night before my trek, after all the preparations, I sat down alone at a table for one surrounded by groups of people. I wondered what the heck I was getting myself into - on my own. Unanswered questions raced through my mind during that meal. I was nervous and scared, and when I went back to my room I cried on the floor next to the gear I had to pack. After a few moments I picked myself up and made a decision. I was all in. There was no turning back, because I believed - I knew - I would make it.
No one tells you how hard it is going to be. No one. In my darkest moments on the mountain, I reached back for that moment before my trek to find the motivation to keep moving forward. But in truth, it was not the act of moving forward when I was truly brave. It was in those moments, months before, when I booked my trip to East Africa and decided to tackle Kilimanjaro. Moments of pure vulnerability and commitment. The type of moments that allow us to be brave in our pursuits.
During my lifetime I've often wondered, What is the best way to live? And I can tell you now the answer is simple. Live courageously. I had travelled to Africa five years before, but the 'me' back then would never have planned a trip like this. Tossed her fears aside and tackled that mountain. I've changed; I'm a different me now, in a self-affirming way. To travel is to live, to love, to be brave. To put one foot in front of the other. To keep moving forward and explore the moments that define us.
“Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious. And however difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. It matters that you don’t just give up. ” — Stephen Hawking
I hope that every woman and girl finds the strength and courage to climb their own mountain, whatever that may be. When you get there, you’ll know why.
The teams behind both The Amazing Trekkers Club (“ATC”) and PAUSE Magazine (“PAUSE”) came together in the evening of Thursday, 23rd November at The Co. @ Duxton, to offer their audience a space that combined both dialogue and discussion with the opportunity to collectively slow down, reflect and reconnect with the self.
ANJI HALLEWELL is a Strengths Coach, Trainer and Founder of Hidden Lava.
Anji’s passion is setting people up for success, by connecting them to their virtues and empowering them to transcend. She helps others to find their inner strength to be mentally and emotionally strong in life.
Here she talks about trekking.... You see physical fitness will get you so far, but when you start to tire it becomes a mental game. The sole object of this game is to not give in to your RESISTANCE....